LET'S TALK & DEBUNK CASUAL DATING IN THIS ERA!

 From Noise and Chaos to Absolute Emptiness!

Let me take you through the past three months of my life… a journey that has neither held my hand nor wiped my tears. It feels like these months have been the ultimate test—like a board exam evaluating every lesson I’ve learned in the last 1,907 days.

Today, I’m writing not to entertain but to unburden my heart. Some emotions are meant to inspire only the one who experiences them, while for others, they might just be another story.

Had I learned to survive on the bare minimum, my story wouldn’t have been left incomplete. Had I been satisfied with the wisdom my family passed down, I wouldn’t have been able to transform anger, greed, jealousy, and resentment into love.
Had I continued carrying the baggage of my grandmother and mother, I wouldn’t have understood true empathy.
Had my heart not been broken countless times, I wouldn’t have dared to seek out the missing half of my soul.

These days, Instagram is flooded with people selling their narratives. Some say that loving a girl with childhood trauma is a mistake—you should either leave her to her fate or simply use her for a good time and move on. The emotionally unavailable ones support this ideology, and honestly, I’ve witnessed this unfold in my own life over the past six years.

I won’t say that I was always the victim because, after walking out of an ICU bed twice, it was my own decision to blindly place my faith in love and step into the chaotic world of noise and indulgence. Between 2021 and the end of 2023, I explored everything that today’s Gen-Z would label as ‘cool.’ If I rewind further, I know that earlier generations would have shredded my dignity to pieces for the same choices.

To put it bluntly, I’ve lived through dark experiences, ones that exposed me to the raw, unfiltered face of society—a world obsessed with bodies, money, and intoxication. At that point in life, I had no higher purpose. All I desired was to taste every pleasure I had only dreamed of in my childhood.

But then, in December 2023, life twisted in a way that shattered my illusions. My perspective, my desires, and my understanding of existence shifted as if a cosmic mirror was placed before me, revealing not just this life, but echoes of past lives and hidden truths waiting to resurface.

Many of you might have heard of the concept of soul contracts—agreements made before birth to step into one's highest purpose. That deep "I am meant for something greater" feeling isn’t random; it’s simply a cosmic memory surfacing. But not everyone activates their mission. However, if you do, life will lead you to someone who initiates your healing, breaks the chains of past karma, and helps you purge the debris of past traumas and trapped negative energy. From there, the path is unique to every soul.

Have you ever wondered about the common thread between Dharma, Artha, Kama, and Moksha? People often say, “Teen tigada, kaam bigada”—that the third element always disrupts balance. Over time, the meaning of this phrase has been distorted. ‘Kaam’ is often mistaken for physical pleasure, but its true essence is ‘action’—the force that propels us toward fulfillment. Perhaps the rightful sequence should have been Dharma, Artha, Karma, and Moksha, because karma is the bridge between action and liberation.

This blog is the continuation of my journey—of being this Yuga’s Rati, decoding spirituality in my own divine wisdom. These writings are a reflection of my spiritual downloads, a way to simplify life through my experiences, and a path assigned to me by the universe itself.

Now, since we’re talking about chaos, let’s address the greatest chaos of this generation—casual dating and its long-term effects. Someone has to talk about the unspoken gap in between, or else the blame game will continue—men blaming women, women blaming men. Everyone seeks love, but no one knows how to nurture it.

Obviously, the ones who grew up in chaos, whose tender fingers clutched at uncertainty instead of security, can barely hold onto themselves—let alone another’s love. In the very phase of life when a child’s emotional foundation should be forming, they weren’t even able to form an attachment to their own toys. And so, they grow up to be dangerous, not just to themselves but to those who love them. Yet, if they find a healed partner, their deep wounds begin to close, transforming them into something as rare and beautiful as a white lotus—both for themselves and for the next generation.

On the other hand, those who grew up in stable, loving environments struggle to comprehend the perspectives and actions of the wounded. Their minds have been wired since childhood to recognize right and wrong, but they lack the maturity to understand why things happen. Wisdom is a matter of free will, and not everyone is wise enough to choose understanding.

In my own search for true love, I turned to casual dating more times than I can count. But while I never intended to hurt anyone, I was often left in chaos by those who pretended to love me at a surface level—those who mistook attraction for connection.

But let’s be honest: our illusions are not entirely our fault. In the cosmic dictionary of Mahadev, nothing is purely wrong—only lessons, transformations, and the destruction of outdated traits. Unfortunately, even the most basic human instincts of patience and deep connection are becoming extinct.

So, let me say this—if you have to spend a night with someone just to test whether you love them, then you are only indulging in attraction disguised as something deeper. Love is not a gamble. But if, after a night together, you find that your hands refuse to part—not out of lust, but out of admiration, an unspoken reverence for their existence—then you’ve found someone who can take you beyond the physical, beyond even consciousness itself.

Ultimately, the choice is yours. Will you seek love at the soul level, or will you remain trapped in the illusions of experimentation and temporary attachments as I once did—again and again?

This is my 13th blog—a continuation of my journey as this Yuga’s Rati, decoding spirituality in my own divine wisdom. My writings are a reflection of my spiritual downloads, meant to simplify life and illuminate hidden truths through my personal experiences. This is my divine assignment.

If you’ve made it this far, know that my journey isn’t just about me. It’s about all of us—those who seek truth in a world full of illusions.

HAR HAR MAHADEV!

-EES YUG KI RATI